Sexual Assault Resources

This list of resources has been compiled to help those affected by rape and sexual assault, with additional educational resources for people supporting them. We will continue to update the sections of this list with new links as we find them.

Contents
  • Get help right now: phone numbers to call
  • If you need help yourself
  • If you want to help someone else*
  • Instagram accounts
  • Books
  • Articles*
  • Podcasts*
  • Watch*
  • Websites
  • Legal Advice

*these sections contain links to personal accounts of sexual assault that might be triggering. Please visit this link for tips by RAINN for consuming media as a survivor.


UK

0808 802 9999 – National Rape Crisis Helpline (England and Wales)
0808 800 5005 – National Male Survivor Helpline (England and Wales)
0808 801 0302 – Rape Crisis Helpline (Scotland)

  • A list of UK national helplines here
  • Find your nearest crisis centre here (England and Wales) and here (Scotland)
  • Find your nearest UK NHS sexual assault referral centre (SARC) here
USA

1-800-656-4673 – RAINN
1-888-843-4564 – LGBT National Hotline
A list of USA national helplines here
COVID-19 Resources in the USA – here
A list of hotlines and chats by The Left Ear – here

What’s it like phoning a rape crisis helpline? read here


What to do
  • NHS information about specialist medical attention/forensics here
  • Coronavirus: current support for victims of sexual violence and abuse here.
  • You don’t have to report what happened, but if you’d like more information on how to report in the UK then click here

Spiking
If you think you’ve been spiked and/or assaulted, someone you trust should take you to your nearest A&E department. Tell the medical staff that you think your drink’s been spiked. Most drugs leave the body within 72 hours (the date rape drug GHB leaves the body within 12 hours), so it’s important to be tested as soon as possible. More info here

What to do if you are abroad
If you are a British national and have been affected by sexual assault abroad, click here for information and guidance on what to do and who to contact, including how to access medical treatment and legal advice in the UK. Visit Rape Crisis Network Europe here


Resources in the short-term

  • Read this if you’re confused or experiencing self-doubt: Was I raped? 17 situations to consider – here
  • Also read this: thinking about consent and unwanted sex – here
  • Common reactions and feelings – here
  • Getting help – Citizens Advice here
  • What to do if you have been sexually harassed, assaulted or raped on campus (UK) here
  • What to do if you’re facing sexual harassment and discrimination at work – updated information for WFH (UK) here and here
  • Support for telling loved ones about sexual assault – here
  • How to Talk About Sexual Assault with Your Parents – here
  • A Note to Survivors Who Aren’t Ready to Share Their Sexual Assaults – here
  • Read this if you feel ‘guilty’ for not wanting to report or share your story – here
  • More websites listed at the bottom of this page

Resources in the long-term

  • Not sure where to start? here
  • Tools to help cope here
  • Recovery help guide here
  • NHS self-help guide here
  • Caring for yourself – a free E-learning resource here
  • Recovering from sexual violence here
  • Self-care after trauma here and @usingourvoice here
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder here
  • Coping with flashbacks here
  • Managing the physiological and emotional effects of trauma here
  • Understanding dissociation here
  • Resources for LGBTQ community here
  • How to cope if you’ve been sexually abused, a guide for young people – here

Comprehensive list of websites and resources offering support here
Further list of PDF support documents here


How to support someone else

  • Tips for talking with survivors here
  • Identifying grooming behaviours – @anarchopuppyism here
  • Drug-facilitated sexual assault and how to know if you/someone around you is drugged – @unspoken_change here
  • Rape and its effects, including a reading list here
  • How to support survivors – @usingourvoice here
  • How can you help sexual assault victims online? – @teenpeeradvocates here
  • A guide for friends and family here
  • How to respond and support here
  • Finding out your child has been sexually abused – here
  • Caring for Kids: What Parents Need to Know about Sexual Abuse – fact and support document here
  • If a child tells you about abuse – here
  • How to help a friend – here
  • When Your Partner Was Sexually Abused as a Child, a guide – here
  • 10 pieces of advice for helping a partner who has been sexually assaulted – here

Educational resources

Definitions and statistics are useful to understand if you’re supporting someone who’s shared their story with you. Here is a list of resources to help address common myths and answer any questions you might have. Some of these links contain personal accounts that might be triggering or upsetting.

  • What is the legal definition of rape? (England and Wales) here
  • Facts and legal definitions about sexual violence (Scotland) here
  • Sexual violence statistics (England and Wales) here
  • Definitions of sexual violence here
  • What is consent? NHS – here
  • The realities of sexual violence on college campuses (USA) – @niceforwhatmvmt here
  • Some useful definitions – @usingourvoice here
  • USA Criminal Justice System statistics here
  • Myths and Facts about Sexual Misconduct – here
  • This is rape culture – @heal.and.chill here
  • Rape Culture, Victim Blaming, And The Facts – here
  • What is stealthing? here and article in The Guardian here
  • What is upskirting? here
  • NHS information on drink spiking and date rape drugs here
  • What is image based sexual abuse? here
  • How ‘provocative clothes’ affect the brain and why it’s no excuse for assault – The Guardian here
  • If you’re wondering why sexual assault victims don’t come forward immediately – BBC Article here and a comprehensive article here
  • Understand why people don’t report their assaults – here
  • About people who’ve been assaulted by someone they’ve met on a dating app – here
  • Read/watch: Why we often don’t believe women who report sexual assault – here
  • We can believe women and seek due process at the same time – Washington Post here
  • Why we should believe survivors – here
  • Old enough to know better? 16-17 year olds and sexual exploitation – here
  • People often defend an alleged rapist’s character. Here’s why you should doubt them – here
  • False accusations: Men are more likely to be raped than be falsely accused of rape – article here

Understanding the effects of sexual assault

  • FAQs and Mythbusting here
  • The effects of trauma from sexual assault/abuse – @usingourvoice here
  • What are the effects of sexual assault? – here
  • Understanding the effects of sexual violence – here
  • Realities of recovering from sexual assault that are not talked about – @niceforwhatmvmt here

Sometimes, reading articles and books can be an overwhelming source of information, and an inaccessible resource if you are unable to invest excess money or time. Following Instagram accounts can be a helpful and free means to bring information to you, rather than seeking it out.

Resources

Campaigns

  • @wecantconsentto – We Can’t Consent To This is a campaign to end the use of “rough sex” defences in the UK
  • @ourstreetsnow – Movement to end public sexual harassment in the UK
  • UK says no more, national campaign to raise awareness to end domestic abuse and sexual violence across the UK – here

When you’ve experienced something traumatic, it can be difficult to process emotions and understand or describe how you’re feeling. In the long-term, listening and reading to other people speak about experiences, autobiographical and fictional, can help you to understand that you aren’t alone in what you’re feeling, and hearing someone else articulate their emotions can often enable you to make sense of your own.

Non fiction

  • Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture – edited by Roxane Gay
    This is a collection of honest, personal essays that explore a range of topics connected to rape culture.
  • Know My Name: the survivor of the Stanford sexual assault case tells her story – Chanel Miller
  • I Have The Right To: A High School Survivor’s Story Of Sexual Assault, Justice And Hope – Chessy Prout
  • Queering Sexual Violence: Radical Voices from Within the Anti-Violence Movement – edited by Jennifer Patterson
  • Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town – Jon Krakauer
  • History of Violence – Édouard Louis

Non fiction – educational

  • Asking for it: The alarming rise of rape culture and what we can do about it – Kate Harding
  • Rage Becomes Her – Soraya Chemaly
  • Why Women Are Blamed For Everything: Exploring the Victim Blaming of Women Subjected to Violence and Trauma – Dr Jessica Eaton
  • What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape – Sohaila Abdulali
  • Everyday Sexism – Laura Bates

Fiction

  • Pretending – Holly Bourne
  • Speak – Laurie Halse Anderson
  • The Red Word – Sarah Henestra
    Related article: Understanding the banality of rape – here
  • What Red Was – Rosie Price
  • An Untamed State – Roxane Gay
  • Below Deck – Sophie Hardcastle (link to Sophie’s essay below)
  • The Round House – Louise Erdrich
  • The Handmaid’s Tale – Margaret Atwood
  • The Way I Used to Be – Amber Smith
  • His Favorites – Kate Walbert
  • 13 Reasons Why – Jay Asher

Reading list by the New York Times here
Young Adult reading list here

Contains links to personal accounts of sexual assault that might be triggering.

Personal stories

  • A year ago I was raped. Here’s what I have learned – The Guardian here
  • Stanford rape case: Chanel Miller’s statement – here
  • Hideous Men | Donald Trump assaulted me in a Bergdorf Goodman dressing room 23 years ago. But he’s not alone on the list of awful men in my life – E Jean Carroll here
  • Why my rape was anti-climactic – Laura Hunter-Thomas here
  • ‘My Sexual Assault Wasn’t That Bad’—and Other Normalizations That Need to Stop – Nina Rubin here
  • Teen Vogue’s thread of articles called “Not Your Fault” – here
  • “Rape Joke” a poem by Patricia Lockwood here
  • My life in sex: ‘Over time, sex became something I could speak about’ The survivor who refuses to be defined by trauma – The Guardian here
  • Your Friends and Rapists: How dick culture permits the crime – Sarah Nicole Prickett here
  • On Not Being A Victim – Mary Gaitskill here
  • Prey – Kathleen Hale here
  • Survivors of sexual assault need more support from universities – Waithera Sebatindira, Gal-dem here

Other articles

  • “Boys will be boys and she was asking for it” How the Media Perpetuates Victim Blaming and the Rape Myth in Rape Cases – Arianny Cabrera here
  • ‘When you go to the police, you think everything will be OK’: the woman fighting for victims of crime – The Guardian here
  • Where are the Black girls in our CSA services, studies and statistics? – Jahnine Davis here
  • “Promising Young Woman” Aims to Redeem the Rape-Revenge Tale. Does It? – Jourdain Searles here
  • After Weinstein, it’s time to say no to the cliched line that rape is about power, not sex – The Guardian here
  • ‘Where The Voices Aren’t: moral accountability at the end of the earth’ (Are men (still) beasts? Rebecca West’s Legacy in the Time of #METOO) by Sophie Hardcastle here
  • Why Men Still Defend Sexual Predators and Fight the #MeToo Movement – here
  • Enough: Crime and Composure – Natalie Eilbert here
  • What sort of sex do women really want? – Louise Perry (campaigner against sexual violence) here
  • ‘A man tried to choke me during sex without warning’ – BBC here
  • Still Doubt Online Harassment Is Real? Read @SheRatesDogs – here

That engage with personal stories

These podcasts reference personal accounts of sexual assault that might be triggering.

  • After: surviving sexual assault – BBC Radio (sharing first person stories and how they cope now)
  • The Left Ear – powerful, personal stories left as voicemails to Dakota Johnson
  • The Heart Radio: No (Soundcloud) here
  • SAFE Berks – The PEOPLE Chronicles Radio, a safe haven and ongoing support system
  • She Says – here
  • This Happened – here
  • Survivor Sisters
  • Journey On: Survivors Healing from Sexual Abuse & Assault – D.J.Burr

Further listening recommendations by Life Continues After – here

Other podcasts
These podcasts discuss sex, dating, relationships and bodily autonomy in ways that are educational, empowering and relatable.

  • Beyond Today – BBC Radio 4
  • All in the Mind – BBC Radio 4
  • Sex Power Money – Sara Pascoe
  • The Pleasure Podcast – Naomi Sheldon and Anand Patel
  • Lalalaletmeexplain
  • Project Pleasure – Anouszka and Frankie
  • Things You Can’t Ask Yer Mum – Lizzy Hadfield & Lindsey Holland
  • The Guilty Feminist – Deborah Frances-White
  • The Receipts Podcast
  • The Gurls Talk Podcast
  • The Sex Wrap Podcast
  • F**ks Given – Studio71 UK & Come Curious
  • What Women Want with Amy Annette
  • Private Parts Unknown – Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra
  • The Sex Ed – Liz Goldwyn
  • The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos – Pushkin Industries
  • Happy Place – Fearne Cotton
  • Adulting – Oenone Forbat
  • Guilt and Shame Podcast

Episodes

  • Freedom Writers Project – #20 Sexual Abuse Survivors: “You Are Not Alone”
  • Therapy Chat – 27: Sexual Assault Is Not Someone Else’s Problem!
  • Therapy for Black Girls – Session 18: Healing After A Sexual Assault
  • Paging Dr. NerdLove – #83 – What Terry Crews Can Teach Us About Standing Up For Male Victims
  • The Intimate Lifestyle – EP106: Male Survivors of Sexual Assault with Don Wright
  • The Sex Wrap – Episode 108: How do I have sex again after traumatic sex?
  • Lalalaletmeexplain – We Can’t Consent To This

Contains links to accounts of sexual assault that might be triggering.
Tips for Survivors on Consuming Media – RAINN here

Fiction

  • I May Destroy You – BBC iPlayer here
  • Nudes: Three teenagers are plunged into a nightmare when their sex lives are shared online. What do you do when private content goes public? – BBC iPlayer here
  • 13 Reasons Why – Netflix – based on the book by Jay Asher
  • Sex Education – Netflix
  • Big Little Lies – based on the book by Liane Moriarty
  • The Handmaid’s Tale – based on the novel by Margaret Atwood
  • Sharp Objects – based on the novel by Gillian Flynn

Non-fiction

  • Sex & Lies: The Truth About Drunk Consent – BBC iPlayer here
  • The Night in Question, Louis Theroux – BBC iPlayer here
  • Is This Sexual Harassment? – BBC iPlayer here
  • The Warwick Uni Rape Chat Scandal – BBC iPlayer here
  • Bombshell – a film about sexual harassment at Fox News

UK

List of other websites here

USA


Information on how to report rape and sexual assault in the UK here

(UK) Rights of Women – www.rightsofwomen.org.uk
A women’s charity working to provide women with legal advice
Further legal advice and support can be found here

  • From Report to Court: A handbook for adult survivors of sexual violence here (A resource which explains the different stages of the legal process, from the point of deciding whether to report the incident to the police, through to the trial, the outcome of the trial and sentence.)
  • If you are thinking about reporting to the police and need some information or support you can call Rape Crisis South London’s Independent Sexual Violence Advocate on 0208 683 3311

How Two Girls Are Teaching Students Their Rights to Fight Campus Sexual Assault – Teen Vogue here – info on your Title IX rights as a student in the USA

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